Determining whether or not you’re ready to move in with your romantic partner can be a daunting process. Most experts wouldn’t recommend doing so before you’ve put at least a year in, but there are other less tangible things than the time that serve as reliable measures. Are you too co-dependent? How often do you discuss money with your partner? Pets? Sleeping patterns? Work schedules? The list can go on forever if you want it to.
According to dating coach and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Pella Weisman, the most important predictor of longevity is a willingness to work on things, or compromising.
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Tyranny of distance
You probably already know that distance is an important aspect of healthy cohabitation, but you might not have known that there’s actually an exact measurement of distance range to promote couple satisfaction that’s specific to each generation. The lighting brand Sofary surveyed 900 couples about all the obstacles and trials that accompany living with their partner. The results intimate an unlikely constant.
Coupled participants who had at least 1,800 square feet of living space expressed much higher levels of satisfaction, compared to couples that occupied more confined living spaces. “The more space couples had to share, the more likely they were to feel satisfied with their relationship. As little as 100 square feet might make up the difference between a happy couple and one on the brink of collapse,” the study reports.
The amount of distance suggested, varied based on the age of the couple, interestingly enough.
- For the oldest generation surveyed, Baby Boomers, which fall between the ages of 55 and 75 years old, 1,835 square feet seemed to make them happiest
- For unhappy Boomer couples, it was 1,733 square feet
- For Millennials the disparity was much greater. The average millennial cohabitating couples that reported satisfaction occasioned 1,810 square feet or more
- Dissatisfied millennial couples began their range at 1,566 square feet
It’s important to remember that not all relationships are worthy of compromise, so make sure you know what you want before committing. If you are ready for the next big step, make sure you leave plenty of room for improvement.