So you’ve been dating a long time, had discussions about money and religion, met each other’s families, and of course, you love each other and can see a future together. Maybe it’s time to take the next big step – wait, not getting married, that’s crazy! We’re talking about moving in together. Sofary.com surveyed over 900 people about living with their significant others about the good and the bad about shacking up.
Why make the move?
- We felt ready: 73.6%
- It made it easier to see each other: 45.7%
- To save money on rent: 28.1%
- One of us needed a new housing situation: 20.2%
Millennials were more likely than any other generation to move in together in order to save money on rent or because one of them needed a place to live.
Sixty-one percent said their satisfaction with their relationship increased after moving in with their partner.
Over time, though, that satisfaction leveled out based on how quickly or slowly they had pulled the trigger on shacking up together. Of those who had decided to live together too quickly, 53.1% were dissatisfied with their relationship. (Not everyone’s ready to share a bathroom in the early stages of a relationship.)
And of those who felt they decided to live together at just the right time, 82.9% were satisfied with their relationship.
Once a couple is happily ensconced in a home (or tiny apartment) together, reality – and complaints – quickly hits.
On a more hopeful note, 50% of married couples say that tolerance of your partner’s habits and quirks gets easier after you move in together. (Just be sure to clean up after yourself).
Feathering the nest
Purchasing furniture and new decor is a ritual for moving in with a partner. About 58% of a shared apartment’s furniture is purchased after a couple moves in together, and men spent about $600 more on furniture and decor than women. (Women spent $4,964, and men spent $5,624.) Still, 19% of women felt they hadn’t spent enough on furniture and decor, while 16% of men felt they had overspent. Yet another place to agree to disagree!
The furnishing of a new shared home best illustrates the importance of compromise. As a man surveyed by Sofary said, “She wanted a rain lamp; I think it’s a 1970s piece of decor that’s tacky but she had to have it.” And so they bought the rain lamp, and all is peaceful on the home front.