A shocking number of people lie about this when they are dating someone

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Talking about salaries is an uncomfortable situation no matter how it’s masked. Whether it’s between colleagues or friends, it creates a tense atmosphere that more often or not comes with a little fabrication. When it comes to dating, that’s especially true for a third of Americans.

Three in ten Americans admitted to lying about their salary while dating, according to a new poll by One Poll, with a quarter even expressing how they’ve hidden the truth about their spending habits.

The study, which examined 2,000 people’s dating deterrents, said that a tenth of respondents feared their credit card debt of more than $10,000 was like waving a red flag right in front of their date’s face, with 35% of Americans thinking credit card debt is worse than student loan debt.

Other things people lied about early in relationships were spending habits (28%), debt (24%), and their job (23%).

“When it comes to long-term relationships, including marriages, studies have shown that money arguments are the biggest predictor for divorce, no matter the income bracket or financial situation of the couple in question, Self Lender CEO James Garvey said in a press release. “Not discussing your financial situation might be fine for a short-term fling, but the data shows that if you want a long-term, committed relationship, you have to open up about your money and get on the same page financially.”


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If dating leads to marriage, one in two people said it should be a moral and legal obligation to disclose finances, specifically debt, before proposing.

However, the biggest dating red flag as drinking too much (64%), bad manners (56%), and dirty living space (53%).

Dating red flags

1. Drinking too much 64%
2. Bad manners 56%
3. Dirty living space 53%
4. Credit card debt 50%
5. Always on the phone even when we’re on a date 46%
6. Argumentative 46%
7. Cheap 46%
8. Poor clothing choices 46%
9. Never introducing me to family and friends 45%
10. Our values don’t align 44%
11. Too needy 41%
12. Cannot hold a steady job 40%
13. Late to plans 40%
14. We don’t have a lot in common 40%
15. Doesn’t respond in time 39%
16. Bad credit score 37%
17. Push my physical boundaries 35%
18. Describes exes as “crazy” 34%
19. Flaky 32%
20. Don’t know a lot about them 32%

Dating lies early in a relationship

1. My salary 31%
2. Spending habits 28%
3. My debt 24%
4. My job 23%
5. My family 21%
6. Relationship intentions 19%
7. Seeing other people 17%
8. Current living arrangements 17%
9. Where I live 16%
10. Health problems/hobbies and interest 15%
11. Fitness habits 15%
12. Frequency of dates 14%
13. Previous marriage/long term partners 14%