When the job hunt feels like the dating game …

Just when you thought you could keep your personal and work life apart, turns out the job hunt and the dating game are remarkably alike. No, really. The process goes something like this: You dress the part—whether that’s “smart casual” for a meeting or for a coffee date. Or maybe you put on your best outfit because first impressions count across the desk as much as the dinner table. Then as you start to get to know each other, you might pull out some stories that feel rehearsed because of the number of times you’ve told them: why you left your last job (though on good terms), why your last relationship didn’t work (though you’re still friends), what you’re looking for now (which has an uncanny similarity to why you’re there in the first place.) You tell your potential boss about your strength and weaknesses stressing how well you adapt…just like you run down your likes and dislikes with your “maybe babe” stressing how much you’re open to trying new things. At the end of the encounter, you walk out with one of you promising to call. The hiring manager might say, “be in touch” with a handshake while your date might say, “I’ll text you,” with a smile. Either way, you walk away a bit unsure about what just happened.

We’ve found that the job search, like the dating game, can be a universally confusing experience. Since we believe that finding your place to belong in the working world is so important, we looked into this analogy a little deeper. With the help of Kelton Research, we conducted a Transparency in the Workplace survey to see how people found their work life match. Here are a few surprising stats:

The interview is just as confusing as dating

  • Nearly 1 in 4 (23%) say they’ve been intentionally misled during a job interview, nearly the same amount (25%) who say they’ve been misled in online dating
  • There is more temptation to lie during a job interview than during a date: 25% percent of Americans say they’d be tempted to misrepresent themselves while on a job interview compared to 23% who would be on a first date
  • Over half (52%) of Americans believe people will misrepresent themselves in job interviews

One of the big differences, however, is that you can obviously go on many dates before you have to decide whether that person is for you. But when it comes to the job hunt, you can’t really dip in and out of your work day to see if you might like it more or less next time. Where dating relies on your first-hand experience, how do you find out what a company is really like before taking a job? The options are few. Besides having personal connections at a company who will give you the goods and the dirt, 86% of people we surveyed said they didn’t know of any online resources for finding company information.

If only you could “job date”

That’s our mission at kununu. We’re here to help you get honest impressions about companies straight from employees. We want to fill your job dating pool with as many real experiences as possible so you can make an informed decision about your work life—before you have to commit to it. Our goal is to inspire workers everywhere to share their company reviews so they can help others get to know those workplaces vicariously. We are the platform. You are the voice. So maybe you can’t date your job, but you can save some heartbreak for would-be employees who might otherwise experience that first-day regret. Your review can also help your employer recognize what they can change to create healthier and happier work relationships. Sound idealistic? We hope so. Help set the record straight at your company.

This article was originally published on Kununu.com.