These are the biggest (and weirdest) dating and relationship red flags

Dating pet peeves vary widely between generations, it turns out. For Baby Boomers, it’s a partner who doesn’t keep their word.

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The road to romance is fraught with tension, with each side hoping they don’t push each other’s buttons.

BodyLogic MD surveyed 1,000 people about their biggest warnings in a new relationship, which antics are most likely to cause resentments in a marriage, and even the best ways to find their soul mate.


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Dating pet peeves vary widely between generations, it turns out. For Baby Boomers, it’s a partner who doesn’t keep their word. For Generation X, it’s having a partner who can’t commit. Millennials can’t stand a partner who isn’t emotionally available, and Gen Z can’t tolerate a partner who won’t tolerate texts.

Check out the graphic for the early-stage red flags, broken down by men and women. They range from “oversharing on social media” to “being controlling” to “not texting when out/busy” and the supremely annoying “giving advice instead of comfort.”

Once you get past dating, you may find yourself in a relationship, and after that, possibly married. This leads to a whole new set of problems as couples try to adjust. Newly married couples found they did a number of things “wrong” in the eyes of their partner once they settled in together. Here are their top 10 crimes:

  1. Squeezing the toothpaste tube: 85%
  2. Folding laundry: 72%
  3. Showering: 71%
  4. Taking out the trash:68%
  5. Dishes: 65%
  6. Toilet paper roll orientation: 59%
  7. Finding a parking spot: 56%
  8. Expressing emotions: 42%
  9. Cooking: 36%
  10. Giving advice/problem solving: 31%

In fact, 77% of married couples said that their first year of marriage was complicated because of differences in how household chores were done. The whole list of indignities, which could be printed out and taken to a couple’s therapist, is below.

But there’s good news: Any resentment in the marriage boils down to lack of communication, as 87% of women and 77% of men responded. So the problem, as they say, is easily fixable.


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Sheila McClear|is a reporter for Ladders and can be reached at smcclear@theladders.com.