People think if you don’t talk about these 5 topics, you aren’t a real adult

There isn’t a more pluralistic objective than a life fulfilled. The fundamental personality of a good time, which changes with every generation, pilots everything between culture and the economy while lending mettle to poetic commentary; it tells us what we ought to care about and just how tenderly.

In some aspects, Millennials and Generation Z evidence an à la carte approach to sketching a meaningful life. They’re political, narcissistic and very concerned with being well-thought-of in the future. The biggest departure from the bohemians and beatniks mostly has to do with age. Tuition being what it is, and religion being what it always has been, sees young Americans nudge their butterfly days right up to the edge, determining age 29 to be the peak of social vigor and the beginning of domestication.

This statistic in particular was revealed as the median age wherein respondents in a new One Poll study believe to thrive the most.  In their in-depth analysis, commissioned by Evite, of the lifestyle behaviors of young US citizens, the authors index the principal marks of successful adulthood according to 2,000 respondents that desperately aspire to achieve it.

Bachelors and bootstraps

All of the questions that comprise the new survey can be summed up with a single: What should you make sure to accomplish before you turn 30? For some, financial security was the primary predictor of a fully developed tricenarian (61%). To others, nutrition and wellness were principle preoccupations (52%). Both of these hatched related sub-goals like romantic partnership (51%) and career fulfillment (50%). Sixty-nine percent of those surveyed found career fulfillment to attend to their other aspirations. Achieving financial security via a vocation that an individual is passionate about was a frequently cited two bird, one stone scenario.

Seventy-two percent of surveyees were confident that a meaningful life could not be acquired without a long-term romantic relationship. An additional 72% said that a bustling social life and true adulthood are one and the same. To this, Kristy Gharabally, who is a spokesperson for Evite, stated the following, “There’s a misconception that our social lives ‘peak’ in high school or college, but the truth is, more and more people seek meaningful, long-lasting relationships, and often those are formed or solidified in adulthood. Many key milestones occur in your 20s, and the people you form those relationships with are along for the ride.”

What exactly then, defines a “thriving social life”? Again, the results were sundry, though you could feasibly round two halves out of dinner parties (52%) and weddings (54%)—the invitation to these events signaled a healthy social life mind you, not attendance. In fact, 82% of the respondents queried reported feeling relief when plans got canceled and 61% regularly make plans with other people only to cancel shortly thereafter. Twenty-three percent of these said that they were thrilled to be off the hook. This flaky salve for social-related anxiety has since been dubbed JOMO or the joy of missing out.

Below you’ll find a list of all of the things that the respondents felt determined social wellness.

Top 5 areas of life that need to be in order before having a fulfilling social life

1. Finances 61%

2. Nutrition/Wellness 53%

3. Self-confidence/self-esteem 52%

4. Romantic relationships 51%

5. Career goals 50%

Top 5 adult events

1. Weddings 54%

2. Dinner parties 52%

3. Happy hours (with colleagues) 46%

4. Housewarmings 44%

5. Bachelor/bachelorette parties 43%

Top 5 ‘adult’ social conversations

1. Plans for future 62%

2. Arranging social events with friends and family 52%

3. Politics 48%

4. Healthcare 47%

5. Weather 36%

These items listed above explain why novels like Catcher in the Rye and The Bell Jar remained fixed in the western consciousness. Both novels famously demonstrate obvious psychological metamorphosis. These right of passage pieces instill the idea that there’s always a series of things that transpire before we reach adulthood when the process more often occurs discretely if at all.  Maturity isn’t an inevitability or a right. It’s a hidden grail that only reveals itself to those that seek it for the right reasons.

“The early years of adulting are tough for all of us, but the numbers reassure us that it definitely gets better. And for those over 30, don’t worry. Continue fostering your most meaningful relationships; those are the ones that will carry you well past your peak social butterfly days,” adds Gharabally.