As we grow up, we are encouraged to leave the nest of our family’s home. Some of us fly off on our own, some of us need a helpful push. For one 30-year-old man in upstate New York, it took getting sued by his parents for him to finally be persuaded to move out and leave the house. On Tuesday, Mark and Christina Rotondo successfully won a lawsuit to evict their son Michael from their home.
“We have decided that you must leave this house immediately”
Michael had been living with his parents for the past eight years without paying rent or helping with chores according to court documents, and the parents had finally had enough. “Michael, After a discussion with your Mother, we have decided that you must leave this house immediately,” reads the first eviction letter, dated February 2nd. “You have 14 days to vacate … We will take whatever actions are necessary to enforce this decision.”
The message went unheeded. In a follow-up letter, the Rotondos tried sweetening the deal with money, offering to give Michael $1,100 to help with moving expenses. “There are jobs available even for those with a poor work history like you. Get one — you have to work!” the parents pleaded in a February 18 letter. In a later March letter, the parents even offered to help pay for Michael’s car repairs.
The conflict finally went to court, and the judge sided with the parents, ordering an outline of the terms of eviction while allowing Michael to stay at home until an official eviction date is set.
In his defense, Michael said that he was always planning on moving out — just not anytime soon. “I have money. I have income,” Michael told the New York Post. “I have plans to not stay with them anymore — just not today, just not in 30 days. I can’t imagine I’ll be there in three months.”
Michael Rotondo is an extreme case, but he is not alone in staying put. He is part of the new trend of adult Millennials living at home with their families. Millennials are moving at historically low rates in the wake of a recession and high student debt, the Pew Research Center found. In fact, nowadays, Millennials are more likely to live with their parents than with long-term partners.
Some Millennials handle this reality with grace, choosing to help their parents out with rent or chores to make the situation easier. But Michael Rotondo’s refusal to leave is a case study of what happens when you grow too accustomed to the luxuries of home without wanting to deal with the realities of adulthood.