Millennials’ parents just won’t stop getting involved in their kids’ jobs

When Millennials’ parents aren’t busy evicting their 30-year-old sons from their houses, it seems they’re busy pestering their kids’ bosses. Parents: This is a bad idea.

We’ve heard it over and over and over and over. The helicopter parents who raised the Millennial generation first headed to college with them to pester professors and roommates. Now, they won’t stop inserting themselves into job searches, problems at work, and even firings.

Ask a Manager’s Alison Green — who hears perhaps more than anyone else from the trenches of the modern workplace — dives into the problem in a post over at Slate

Some parents are guilty of the minor sin of simply giving bad advice. Like those of this letter writer:

My parents still push me hardcore to job search by walking around to buildings with an armload of cookie-cutter resumes that list every job I’ve ever had (even my high school laundromat job from over ten years ago; I’m a VFX artist now), shove it at the receptionist, ask to speak to the hiring manager right then and there and if they tell me s/he’s busy, say “no problem, I’ll wait” and then just awkwardly loiter in their lobby until I am presented with the hiring manager—or much more likely if I ever tried this, forcibly removed.

Yeah, bad idea.

But others are much, much worse. Like this mom who is TWEETING AT HER KIDS’ POTENTIAL EMPLOYERS:

My mum is insisting that the way to get a job is through social media … She’s tweeting companies in our area to tell them I’m looking for a job and asking if they have any vacancies. It’s very embarrassing. She’s tweeting them my full name, my age, location and the type of work I’m looking for. I’ve asked her to stop so many times, but she downright refuses and keeps doing it.


Managers are fed up, like this guy:

I have frequently had young employees’ parents contacting me to call in sick for their child or to ask me why their child has been terminated/ask me to re-hire their child. I am absolutely frustrated with this.

Green has some pointers for the “kids” (so to speak — these are actually, technically ADULTS) mortified by their parents’ behavior. But there may be no script on earth that could undo the damage here.

So, kids, do what you can. Apologize profusely and get your parents to knock it out.

And parents: Do. Not. Do. This.