To build a successful and sustainable business, you need a team of employees who bring their unique abilities, strengths and perspectives to the challenges you will face. But to draw and keep talented individuals who have a variety of skills and personality types, you have to learn a key skill: You have to learn how to lead people who are different than you.
Many books on leadership provide valuable insights into key skills and abilities needed to effectively lead others. But one concept that is not stressed enough is: to lead a successful team, you have to understand those who are not like you, and be able to support, encourage and motivate them.
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We say to ourselves (or others): “I know that. Everyone is different.” But if you take a closer look at how you act and communicate with others, it may become evident that you actually treat everyone pretty much the same, in the ways that are most comfortable for you.
To truly practice this leadership skill, some foundational principles need to be understood and accepted:
- You need a team to accomplish your goals. If you can achieve your business goal by yourself, your goals are not large enough. You need others to help accomplish the goals you have for the company, so start treating others like you need them, versus reminding them how much they need you.
- Other people think, believe, process information and are motivated differently than you. Some think “big picture,” others need specific details. Some are analytical, others are dreamy creative types. Some need to see the information, others need to hear it. Some need both. Some want accolades and praise, others just want a private “thanks.”
- Doing things your way isn’t always the best way for others. You are bright, talented and you get things done. But, believe it or not, your way of doing things isn’t the best way for everyone else. Additionally, your way may not be the best way for some tasks to get done (for example, many engineers’ ideas for marketing products aren’t that effective).
- You need people different than you to make a good team. Differences are good (although they involved challenges – like communicating clearly). You need detailed, analytic conservative fiscal types. You need energetic, outgoing “let’s tackle the world” salespeople. You need people who communicate ideas effectively to others, both orally and in writing. You need people who can communicate through pictures, images, colors and movement. You need dreamers and you need “get it done” implementers. A successful business utilizes the strengths of their multi-talented team members.
How to make your team feel valued
One key issue: motivation. Many leaders do not understand a key issue about their team members. Not everyone feels valued in the same ways. Many leaders attempt to reward and motivate their employees in the ways that are important to them. They assume that because they are motivated by, for instance, encouraging words, their employees will be too.
Some managers are motivated by verbal praise and giving awards, or through a bonus incentive program. Some people feel valued when they are included and get to spend time with others who are important to them, such as going to a sports event together. And others appreciate working on a task together and solving a challenging problem as a team. In fact, we have identified five different “languages” of appreciation in the workplace and numerous specific actions within each language that differ from person to person.
If you try to use the “one size fits all” approach, the results will be discouraging. First, you won’t “hit the mark” if you give verbal praise to those who believe “words are cheap.” Secondly, you will waste a lot of time, energy and potential money by giving gifts, rewards and bonuses to those for whom a little time or camaraderie is worth more than the expensive dinner you treated them to. Finally, you will probably become irritated that your team members don’t seem to “appreciate all I do for them.”
Instead, find out how each team member is motivated, what is important to them, what makes them feel valued and appreciated. It will energize them to use their unique skills to improve and sustain your business, as well as create a culture where difference is celebrated.
This article originally appeared on Appreciation at Work.
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