Ethological advancements continue to challenge love’s sovereignty over western tradition. Currently, it can be assumed that the purported, ever-abstruse, husky whisper that inspired the best of Rossetti, Vandross, Hayez and Zonday, is little more than an evolutionary holdover that telephoned it’s way from first age necessity to ethereal insistence.
Miraculously, being aware of the slight of hand doesn’t depreciate its effect. Michael Liebowitz famously de-powered Aphrodite back in 1983. Today he’s most often referenced by reason of his “Chocolate Theory of Love”, but he also powerfully belittled the treasured euphoric perception espoused to romance to a mundane succession of chemical reactions that very same year.
If you pressed any of your friends under the age of 40 on whether or not they agree with Liebowitz’s assessment, I think more would than wouldn’t to some degree or another. Even though 84% of Millennials believe in the progression of natural process at the expense of theological considerations, the same group remains devoted to the ceremonial ornaments that decorate the falsehood.
The authors of a new Marriage Tradition study conducted by Jean Dousset reports, “It’s no secret that millennials are choosing to do things differently than generations before them. Their relationships are no exception, as they choose to move in together sooner and get married later than their parents. When millennials do decide to get married, their weddings look different, too. Gone are the days of religious ceremonies, rice showers, and cans tied to cars, having been replaced by millennials with traditions of their own, such as first looks and sparkler exits. What other wedding traditions are millennials leaving behind? We asked 1,850 newlyweds to find out.”
What’s the Hitch(ens)?
As intimated by the introduction above, specifics were consistently the first elements to be amputated from 21st-century weddings, while most of the general, non-symbolic things tended to stick around: cakes, dancing and ring bearers are here to stay.
The jury has elected to lean away from religious officiants, same-sex bridal parties, traditional vows, and rice showers. Not only did less than half of the respondents report having a religious ceremony, 75% actually preferred not to hold their event at a venue that’s associated with a religion.
As far as the new is concerned, this generation is reportedly big into after-parties, writing their own vows, serving twists on traditional wedding desserts, and crafting a unique hashtag to accompany the ceremony compared to previous generations. Two in five couples either didn’t or don’t plan on asking for a parent’s blessing before pinching the question, and more than half of the sample took at least a year to plan and make sure they got the big day right.
The authors add, “Traditions aren’t the only thing millennials are saying goodbye to. Less than one in five millennial weddings are paid for by the bride’s family – instead, that cost is more often shouldered by the couples themselves. According to respondents, almost half paid for their own wedding, and when they did, they split costs evenly. This includes the wedding dress, which one in four couples bought together.”
Couples split cost the most frequently when it came down to the honeymoon (53%), photography/videography (46%), ceremony/ reception (42%) and the rehearsal dinner (32%).
The only staple that is wholly bereft of any indication of cultural overturn anytime soon is the male to female last name exchange. Seventy-one percent of female participants intend on taking their groom’s last name and 5% opted for that fancy hyphen. It was comical when Virginia wept over the nontroversy back in 1975. One has to wonder what keeps the practice alive sans relevant legislation and the retroactive censure of coverture. As is stands, partners seemed to be thriving with their nuptial amendments.
“Regardless of the traditions millennials choose to incorporate or leave behind, we can be sure that making the big day their own will make them happiest: 93% of respondents said it lived up to their expectations.” the authors wrote.