In today’s hiring environment companies are screening not only for experience and attitude but for presence. Competency and grit are not enough. You must also have good internal and external self-awareness and self-regulation. In leadership positions that translates to executive presence.
Executive presence is a sense of being that indicate to others that you know what it takes to lead and be effective. It sends a commanding signal that you know how to harmonize your temperament, confidence, skillset and awareness to get the job done. You know when someone has it. And you know when they don’t. The people who have it are the ones other people look to first.
Can executive presence be developed? Yes – if you have a baseline of self-confidence and a willingness to find ease when dealing with the unpredictable situations at the executive level.
Know What Executive Presence Is
Qualities of Great Executive Presence:
- Not emotional
- Good listener
- Not risk averse
- Leverages his/her assets
Notice Your Behavior
When you want to build executive presence start with paying attention to your own behavior. Self-awareness falls into two categories – internal and external. One is not good without the other. You may be so in-tune with your feelings that your own world consumes all your attention, detaching you from others. Or you may be so focused externally on what others think that you deny your own purpose.
The goal is to become a curious third-party observer of yourself and others – to be mindful of your own behavior and that of others without assuming any judgment. “I notice that I am feeling threatened by her abrupt tone. I wonder what has annoyed her. I’ll ask.” is far more productive than, “She is so rude and obnoxious.”
Don’t Judge Yourself or Others
When we judge others, we subliminally judge ourselves far worse. We minimize our own effectiveness by using the behavior of others as an excuse for our judgments, under-performance, self-doubt or ineffectiveness. And to make matters worse if we tell other people our judgmental assumptions, it makes us look petty, stripping our executive presence. Good leaders don’t criticize. They redirect, coach and inspire.
Self-Regulate Your Emotions
When you have good internal and external self-awareness you are then able to self-regulate your emotions before they show. You can say to yourself, “I am angry that he hasn’t done what he was supposed to. I could erupt or complain about him but instead I choose to ask if he understood what was due today, give a clear directive on when I want it and get buy-in on the front end of the next deliverable.”
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