One of the things I was most surprised by when I got into the jobs business over a decade ago was the prevalence and practice of age discrimination in hiring right here in the USA. Oh, sure... we're not like some overseas markets where job ads explicitly demand youth, or a particular gender, or beauty(!), in the applicant, but there it is...
Good Monday morning,
It all went so wrong, so very, very wrong — right from the start.
You left your notepad with your hand-written questions at home; your CEO pulled you into a last-second meeting that made you a half-hour late to the interview; and you finished it off by saying "I think my background and experience make me uniquely suited to making a big contribution here at Avis," which was a good point, except you were interviewing at Hertz.
You had a bad day in the job hunt. A really bad one. You feel embarrassed, and you're starting to wonder if anybody is ever going to be foolish enough to hire you.
It happens to all of us. I've been through two dozen job hunts in my lifetime and I could spend a couple hours over lunch filling you in on all the stupid mistakes I've made.
I know what it's like to completely and utterly bomb the interview — the humiliation and the self-doubt and the worry that you're never going to find a new job because maybe, just maybe, you don't really deserve one.
And I know the anxiety that causes you to question yourself and feel like the whole system is set up to frustrate and defeat you.
And I'd like to tell you that it's easy to just brush it off and get back up and get going again.
But it's not.
Because while goof-ups are a natural part of the process anytime we're trying to do something new — a new golf swing, a new app, or finding a new job — and we should just take them in stride, that's one of those things that is easier said than done.
In the job hunt, we feel that too much is at stake, there's too much on the line, for us to just shake it off.
And that's the problem.
At TheLadders, we spend a lot of time studying the best ways to help you get into your next job as quickly and painlessly as possible. As a matter of fact, we've been funding research from top academics in the field for the past few years now.
And one of the first things we discovered was this sad fact:
The day after a "bad" day, the average job-seeker only does half as much for their job hunt as they normally do. They only send out half as many resumes, make half as many calls, and do half as much research as they normally do.
It's understandable. You're embarrassed, you're feeling foolish, you're having doubts about your abilities. All because of that bad day.
Shakespeare, as usual, may have said it best:
Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.
Our doubts are traitors, indeed. They sit there on your shoulder, bend your ear, and whisper negative thoughts into your head. Which is a shame, because that same research shows there is a direct correlation between activity in the job hunt and finding your next job. So in a way, the little buggers whispering negative things in your ear are directly undermining your chances of success.
Of course, when you sit back to think about it, this drop in activity the day after a bad day is absolutely 180 degrees different from the advice you'd give to somebody you care about, when they are facing a similar situation.
The day after your daughter falls off her bike while she's learning to ride without training wheels, you don't tell her to try only half as hard today.
And when your college buddy, who needs to drop more than a few pounds, blows his diet at Outback Steakhouse with the Bloomin' Onion, the 22-ounce Melbourne Steak and that dang delicious Chocolate Thunder from Down Under, you don't tell him it's OK to only try half as hard to stick to the diet tomorrow.
No, you tell the people you care about that the past is the past, that today is a new day, and they should do something new with it.
So here's the good news. While the average job-seeker only puts half as much effort into their job hunt the day after a bad day, it's important for you to remember:
You're not the average job-seeker.
You got here because you're effective at dealing with business problems, and you've shown the leadership and management ability to overcome tough situations.
It's often said that finding a job is a job in itself. If that's the case, why shouldn't you treat a bad day on the job hunt the way you'd treat a bad day at the office? When the big sale is slipping away, or the budget is late, or the database crashed, or the agency hasn't turned around the work on time, you don't sit back. You leap into action.
And that sense of competence in overcoming the day-to-day problems of your job is the same sense of capability and effectiveness I'd like to ask you to bring to your job hunt.
The day after a bad day, treat it just like you would any challenge you face in business. Don't cut your effort in half … Double it.
You're one of the top professionals in the country for a reason. And that reason is that when all of the people in this nation were put on a scale, you were found to be one of the best at your job, the best at your business, and the best at making yourself a success.
And what I can tell you from experience — my experience over the past seven years here at TheLadders — is that you will find your next great role in life. Sometimes the road is long, and winding, and twisted, and the destination feels like it is forever just out of sight, but from watching literally millions of your fellow subscribers here at TheLadders land their next job, I can tell you that you, too, will find yours.
So this Monday morning, I want you to banish those traitorous doubts, and show them who's really boss, by doubling your efforts.
I'll be rooting for you.
Marc Cenedella, CEO & Founder
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P.P.S. Want to see what I wrote to our 50,000 recruiter friends last week? Read "I have no idea what to say: 15 easy ideas you can copy in your social recruiting"